The job that Fibromyalgia was really doing for me...

I remember it clearly. I had just attended a Tequila and Chocolate Yoga Rave night—a friend had invited me along, promising it would be fun. Though I doubted my fibromyalgia-ridden body would be able to keep up with the yoga, the promise of 1970s disco rave, tequila shots between asanas, and chocolate tantra got me through the door.

The room was packed and freezing. We were in the basement of a Sikh temple, on a bare concrete floor, and my fibro-sore muscles spasmed every time they came into contact with the ice-cold ground. I was completely out of my depth compared to the other yogis in the room, but the teacher kept making eye contact with me, silently encouraging me to move forward at my own pace.

At some point during the three-hour workshop, something he said hit me hard—one of those moments in life where everything aligns, and the fire of change is ignited.

He asked the room:

“Why are you giving your biggest problem permission to stay in your life? What is it doing for you that makes you hold onto it so tightly?”

My biggest problem right then was the daily battle with my body. Fibromyalgia had been a relentless part of my life for well over a decade, but I was so done with it.

I remember driving home after the workshop, shouting and swearing at the top of my lungs:

“F*ck off, Fibro! I’m done with you. We are over.”

That single sentence—spoken in a cold car on a dark night—changed everything for me. That was June 2016. Eighteen months later, I was completely free from nearly twenty chronic illnesses and conditions.

One of the most pivotal energy shifts in my Fibromyalgia healing journey was understanding what job the illness had been doing for me.

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It took me back to the very start of my fibromyalgia, back in 2003. At the time, I was working for a top FTSE 100 company, on a high-performance, high-potential management fast-track programme. The company had just given me a huge double promotion, was paying me an exceptional salary for a 25-year-old, and was fully funding my Master’s degree at a top UK university.

On the surface, I had it all—a bright future laid out before me.

But deep down, it wasn’t me.

Ever since childhood, I had been a natural nurturer—mixing lotions and potions, playing at ‘healing’ with my friends and dolls, offering ‘therapy’ to the upset kids in the playground. But growing up, the adult messaging had been clear: I should become a big-shot businesswoman.

And so, at 25, here I was—excelling in a prestigious job, my career progression meticulously mapped out. The parent (and so many others) whose disapproval I had felt growing up was suddenly bragging about me—which only pushed me further into this world that looked so right on paper.

This ‘glittering’ job was meeting key needs I had never felt fulfilled before:

🔹 Feeling significant
🔹 Feeling loved and valued
🔹 Receiving external approval that reinforced all of this

It was validating me in a way I had never experienced before. And that’s when I realised—Fibromyalgia had stepped in as my exit strategy.

It just wasn’t me. I wasn’t happy, I wasn’t fulfilled, and I wasn’t morally aligned with the work. I felt so far removed from a sense of purpose and from making a genuine contribution to the world. I had no idea how to get myself out of it.

My mind and body heard all of this and simply said, ‘leave it with me’.

It began with excruciating pain in my right shoulder, which then spread to my neck, lower back, and down my right leg. Sleep became impossible, and the medication didn’t work. I couldn’t drive or sit at a computer. All I wanted was rest.

It continued for months, spreading throughout my body. I had tests at the hospital and was passed from department to department—something that went on for years before I received a diagnosis. I began to realise I would need to leave my job after my husband took me away for a break in the sunshine. By day two of the holiday, I felt almost back to normal (which was the first clue), but it all returned with force as soon as we got home. After several months of struggling to keep going, I decided to take a voluntary redundancy package and set up my own business from home.

The symptoms alleviated almost immediately, but never fully disappeared. I found myself trapped in a pattern of flare-ups for the next decade, most often triggered by periods of stress. What I now understand is that fibromyalgia was trying to help me during those times of stress, anxiety, or difficulty by shutting me down and sending me to bed.

My mind and body had learned something very powerful: it could create pain and fatigue in my body to solve the problem for me, to move me away from situations I felt stuck in but didn’t know how to escape.

Once it worked that first time, it remembered the outcome and brought it back whenever something came up that I didn’t really want to do but didn’t know how to say ‘no’ to. Raised to be a people-pleaser and never say ‘no’, I experienced flare-ups for the majority of those 13 years, losing so much precious time with my children.

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Of course, I was unaware of any of this. It was my subconscious mind that was doing this ‘job’ for me. The subconscious, by its very nature, is ‘sub’—hidden from our conscious awareness. We can’t figure it all out with our conscious mind; it simply isn’t apparent to us. We feel we must hand ourselves over to the medical profession, who often can’t figure it out either. That hidden subconscious mind runs nearly the entire body, trying to help us by moving us away from difficulty. But sometimes it runs on old information, keeping us stuck in patterns that no longer serve us.

At the time, of course, I wasn’t consciously aware of any of this. I took the pain medication, cleared my schedule, and went to bed most days.

As they say, hindsight is 20/20.

Once I began to unravel what was really going on, it only took me 18 months to completely clear fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, insomnia, and so much more from my system. This understanding transformed everything else for me as well. It wasn’t just the mindset work, but also the physical support my body needed as it healed.

It made me see my entire life, and the lives of others, so differently once I learned that the subconscious mind is simply trying to help us, to move us away from what is not meant for us.

It is attempting to fulfil our spiritual needs for growth, purpose, alignment, and contribution, all the while battling with other conditioned 'tribal' needs such as ‘feeling significant and accepted’.

Understanding this was the pivotal shift for me. I reconnected with my spiritual needs and my long-neglected natural sense of purpose as a nurturer and healer. I trained as a Master Energy Healer, and soon after, I discovered Marisa Peer and her Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), which was a game-changer. RTT was the missing piece of the puzzle for me—it essentially condensed that 18-month healing journey into weeks, giving me the best toolkit to take everything I had learned and use it to help others.

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So, do you have a chronic illness in your body today? If so, what ‘job’ do you think it might be doing for you? When did it start? Begin to notice—when does it flare up?

This doesn’t just apply to illness. Understanding the ‘Why’ behind anything that blocks you or holds you back in life is the first step towards releasing it. In RTT hypnosis, we engage directly with your subconscious mind to go right back to the root cause of any block in your life—whether that’s health, work, relationships, or habits.

We uncover exactly what ‘job’ the blocks are trying to do for us, so we can eliminate them once and for all.

If any of this resonates with you, please get in touch. I can help you get back on track—back to a place of growth, purpose, alignment, and contribution, so you can shine brightly in this world and no longer hold yourself back. My unique first-hand experience with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue can help you find the root cause of these ‘energy illnesses’ so you can start shifting that energy and support your body on its journey to healing.

Much love,
Kate x

P.S. If you would like to start working with me on eliminating health blocks, the Deep Roots Program is the one for you.